How many bras do you own where you can say that you love absolutely everything about them? If it took you longer than two seconds to answer this, then that means you can do better.
When you struggle to find bras that fit, how does that make you feel?
“If only I had bigger boobs, shopping would be so much easier. . . “
I feel you. I used to fall into this way of thinking too. My issue has always been gaping cups. But because I experienced this issue in so many bras, I kind of gave up ever trying to fix it. “Well since this keeps happening, it must be my boobs that are the issue.” And I’d just live with it.
But this way of thinking is a trap. As I’ve written about before, oftentimes your body is not the problem, the bra is the problem.
As women, we tend to blame ourselves when things go wrong, rather than consider outside circumstances. Men, on the other hand, tend to be more resilient and take things less personally.
For instance, studies show that when a girl does poorly on an exam in school, she’s more prone to blame herself and think “I am not smart enough.” Whereas boys are more apt to say, “oh that teacher sucked,” and they move on to the next thing. Our tendency as women to blame ourselves and fall into “perfect pleasing” mode often transfers into body shame and criticism.
And bra shopping often brings this out in the worst way.
But don’t fall into this trap. It doesn’t have to be this way. Knowledge is power. If you know why you’re experiencing fit issues (and no, it’s not because your boobs are deformed, so stop that right now), you can be more deliberate with your bra shopping.
OK let’s get into it. Here are the 8 most common small boob problems and how to avoid them