During a recent trip to Chinatown, I stumbled upon some last minute Halloween costume inspiration – poop. Or more specifically, a hat that looked exactly like the poop emoji ???? ????.
Such an amazing find, right?? My creative juices started flowing. I started imagining all the ways I could spin it . . . thoughts of “Hi, I’m poop emoji!” to “I’m the shit” to “shit head” crossed my mind. It was too good.
I haggled with the shop owner and got her down to $7. A pretty great bargain (slash future investment) if you ask me.
In order to pull off the look, I knew I needed an all brown ensemble. The first thing that came to mind was a brown bodysuit. Hey, while I was at it, why not make it a sexy poop??
Why not, right? I mean, come on, when else can you get away with dressing like that? This was my chance to take advantage and wear an outfit I normally wouldn’t dare to wear. I decided that I needed a really stellar bodysuit, preferably something of the low cut variety.
Now, keep in mind, this is not something I would have normally sought out to wear. But in the past year, I’ve totally embraced the idea of flaunting my lack of cleavage. And I’ve been loving the plunging necklines.
The old me would have said, “Oh I’d never be able to pull that off because it would make me look flat”. . . Or, “Forget that – I can’t wear a bra under that so it’s not happening.”
But recently I’ve made the conscious choice to change my mindset. Instead of immediately shutting down the idea of wearing a certain top, I try to think of how I can make it work for me. Instead of defaulting to “No,” I try the “Yes, and . . . ” approach. Some of you may be familiar with this, e.g. instead of turning an option down right away, you respond with ‘yes,’ and then add how you can make it better. So in my case, “Why, yes I’ll wear that low cut bodysuit, and I’ll add in my own bra cups to make it better.”
THE BOOB HACK
I knew I didn’t need much support (small boob “perks”. . . heeeyyy). I just needed a way to fashion a little more shaping and coverage in my top.
I decided to whip out a little DIY bra hack I had used a few times in the past. It’s super easy – all you need is some boob tape and some extra removable pads from a swimsuit or sports bra. I found some sturdier ones with a nice round shape. Step 1: add a piece of boob tape on the bottom of each pad. Step 2: stick each pad inside the bodysuit so that it covers each boob. Could NOT. BE. EASIER.
I thought I would need extra tape to secure the pads to my body, but they actually stayed put without it (just make sure the bodysuit is tight enough to keep everything snug). I went the whole night without any flashing or pad slippage – pretty impressive considering I was dancing and running around.
And if your top is double layered, you can even cut a slit and slip the pad inside between the two layers for something a little more secure (see the full DIY details in this post here).
WHAT DID PEOPLE THINK?
The costume ended up being a big hit. Everyone loved it. And I even received compliments specifically on my boobs – twice! Go figure.
I even had people tell me I was repping “my breast self” – their words, not mine. The absurdity of the outfit combined with the plunging neckline signaled I was comfortable owning who I was. I wasn’t afraid to put my breasts out there. I wasn’t afraid to put my sense of humor out there. I wasn’t afraid to put ME out there. And that’s what being “your breast self” is all about. Guess people are catching on 🙂
If you had told me in high school that people would be complimenting me on my boobs, I would have said nah, get out! I wouldn’t have believed it. I had such a warped perception of what “regular boobs” looked like – not to mention a narrow minded view of what sexy was – that I never thought my small boobs could be considered attractive. But in reality, boobs are so IRregular, that they’re all regular. In other words, there’s so much irregularity when it comes to breast size and shape, that it makes the idea of “regular boobs” a moot point. All boobs are regular – small, uneven, large, pointy, low hanging, all of it – they’re all normal. So work with what you got.
This whole experience caused me to reflect on a few things.
The first is that if I hadn’t taken the chance to step out of my comfort zone, I’d probably still be stuck thinking I could never pull a look like this off. And sexy poop costume never would’ve happened.
I’d be trapped in the mindset I had previously, “Oh I’m too flat chested for that”. . . “My boobs are too small.” But what I realized was that no one else was actually thinking that. In fact, some people were even thinking the exact opposite. They actually liked my small boobs and thought they were perfect for the outfit.
More often than not, this is the case with the “stories” we tell ourselves. We blow things out of proportion in our own minds, and we fixate on the things we dislike about ourselves. We are our own biggest critics.
To change this pattern of thinking, sometimes you have to do something a bit out of the ordinary to get you out of your “thought rut.” Doing something a bit daring is often the best way to do that.
The second takeaway I had from this experience was something I’ve written about before: the importance of small wins. Said relationship expert Greg Behrendt,
“Self-esteem, self-worth and confidence are things that you have to constantly rebuild until you get to a place where those things can no longer be shaken from you. But these things are only gained by a series of tiny victories that, once accumulated, start making you feel better about yourself.”
Every small win you make is a building block to greater confidence. So even if you try something and it totally flops, you’ll still walk away better for it because you grow stronger every time you put yourself out there. Vulnerability requires courage, and practicing courage is never a going to steer you wrong.
So allow yourself to be vulnerable. And try not to take yourself too seriously. What are the “stories” you tell yourself? What’s holding you back? And what is one thing you can try to challenge that?
You might just find that you not only get a huge reality check that shifts your perspective, but you’ll feel stronger because you attempted something you used to fear. It’s a win-win.
What do you think of my small boob bra hack? Would you try this out? Let me know in the comments below!